When one envisions college as a high school student, they foresee a great number of things. But most of all, the prospect of leaving everything behind and starting anew.
Academic success is a great desire and building off of that is a perhaps and even greater, and almost innate inclination, to pursue relationships and friendships. But for some, finding the people with which we want to pursue such connections is incredibly onerous. And that is OK.
Humans tend to feed off of the need to have people around in order to feel secure. But for some, finding people to relate to is incredibly hard.
Commuter students may have this feeling more often than most in a college setting, since the only chance they have to meet people is in class when you need to be paying attention to the lecture. Nevertheless, not fitting in can make you feel like the biggest loser on the planet, but you are not.
Everyone wants to make good friends that last a lifetime when they are in college. However, one thing you should never do is change yourself to fit in with people you go to school with for the sole sake of finally having someone to talk to. That just is not worth it.
First and foremost, you are here to learn. College can help you learn about different people and their struggles. Roosevelt employs great professors and in turn an education that allows for us to become socially aware citizens of the world. Learning is our greatest tool to become better people and more conscious of how society affect our day-to-day lives as well as our future.
It is understandable that consistently being alone is not fun. However, loneliness does not have to be the end result. It becomes very crucial to value independence over loneliness.
With independence, one learns how to do things on their own. There is nothing wrong with being a loner. In fact, it can give you more of a motivation to study and do well as you are not always overly concerned with the social aspect of college.
As students, we all have a multitude of things we deal with on a daily basis, which is why preparing for whatever you wish your future career to be is of utmost importance when it comes to your college years.
So, if you are that student who seems to just not fit in, do not fret. You are not alone and you can always turn this into a positive trait. Throw yourself into your studies, pursue internships and jobs or seek higher positions in an activity you are passionate about.
You will thank yourself for it in the future.